No one truly understands or cares about your problems. They don’t have to. Once you accept this, everything will make sense.
However, there might be one or two people who make the effort in understand you, your problems, your strengths…everything. These people should have a niche in your life.
For so long I didn’t understand what friendships should look like. I acted as if friendships could be with anyone willing to talk to me until they proved to be enemies. Until they did something horrible, they were considered friends before they did anything wonderful. This was the cause of so much hurt and anger.
The problem lies within ourselves. We should know our worth. We don’t deserve just anyone in our lives. We need to wait for people who will prove their love for us on a daily basis. These people will fight for us, care for us, cry with us but help us overcome. These people are our cheerleaders. These people WANT to see every part of us. They won’t allow us to stay in our rut for the sake of “love and friendship” either.
It didn’t make sense until this very moment. It took me YEARS to understand and finally I can articulate what I was feeling. It’s freeing in every way to know that I am on the right path.
In the quest for understanding, you will spend some days alone. Sometimes you will lose people who were never meant to be in your life. Don’t cling, let them go.
People who lie, speak ill of you, belittle you, harass you, DO NOT LOVE YOU. Many of them will claim to love you but deep down you will know. The bible clearly tells us what love looks like. Anyone who puts themselves first does not love. Remember that person who talks excessively about themselves? Yup, no love there. Love isn’t selfish and it doesn’t boast. The person who keeps bringing up your past? Yup, no love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
As you seek the face of God everyday he will continue to show you just what true love looks like. He’s the greatest teacher there is! Trust him, you’ll see.