I’ve read many articles, sites, self help, and bible passages on trust. Out of the bunch I just listed the bible held the answer I was looking for.
This might come as a shock for many Christians but we are in control. We are not in control over all of our circumstances but we control how we respond to them. Christian sources make it seem as if God has control to the point where we can sit and wait and HOPE that something will change. Not a chance. We are called to be fearless- when we don’t trust we become cowardly.
We are not to trust in our circumstances, in our finances, our relationships, not even ourselves. We find trust in the knowledge of God, who he is and who he says we are. We are not victims, we have a voice. We have a mind. We have free will. No one can control us, no one can deeply wound us unless we give up all our rights as an autonomous human being. When we put people on a pedestal, when we seek their love and affection more than we seek God , when we don’t see the person for who they are we become insecure. We become needy and fearful, even paranoid, hoping that everything will go as we hope or fearing they will hurt us.
We cannot control anyone. If a person is set to hurt you, they will no matter what you do. Just know that you should pay close attention and never be blind. The bible always tells us to guard our hearts, trust no man but God with all our heart and mind and to always be alert. We should never be asleep. Being in a state of fear is sinful. It opens the doors to all sorts of unhealthy habits and feelings. It allows us to embody fear itself and it will infect every area of our lives not just the root source.
Human beings are flawed. Humans are never to be trusted 100 percent. We should only trust God with our very heart. We are called to love. In fear there is no love. Without trust there is no love but trust not in their ability to serve but for you to serve them. Trust in God’s love pouring out from you, enabling you to overcome any obstacles this life will throw at you.
Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms;
Thus says the Lord: “Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord
It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man. It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in princes.
Sources: Bible Online