There is this saying floating around that being alone is a horrible thing and you’re doomed in life if you embrace that lifestyle.
This beautiful Wednesday morning, I hear the birds chirping…I just finished a warm bowl of oatmeal and now I’m listening to the light clicking of my fingers typing away, I have something I want to share with you.
You will find yourself in seasons of solitude. It might be voluntary or involuntary, and I’ve come to tell you that it’s okay. It’s okay, don’t fret, don’t cry. Don’t pace back and forth in your living room. Don’t dive under the blanket and eat a tub of ice cream. Nothing is wrong with you. You are not less of a person because no one is around. Solitude is a great time to re-affirm your beliefs. A great time to slow down and get things done. It’s a great opportunity to have less social commitments and simply go outside and mingle with people for the sake of doing so. Think of it as a new adventure.
You are about to embark on a journey. You are about to discover a whole new aspect to life, by yourself. You won’t have people nagging you, questioning your decisions, you are free to explore without limitations. If you had a fall out with people in your past, deal with it, bitterness is not cute. It will form clouds on that beautiful, radiant face of yours and we don’t want that.
Have friends that cramp your style and make you question your existence? Maybe it’s time to be like Abraham and let go of Lot. Is it healthy to be in constant turmoil when you can go to the opposite side of town and be in peace?
We live in a world where no one is free to simply be. We are pressured to have forced and labored interactions. Forced to smile when we don’t want to. Forced to be fake and pretend life is something grand when sometimes it’s not. It’s beautiful when you can smile because you know why you’re smiling, even if it’s something small and insignificant. It’s a great feeling to connect with someone honestly, and not just putting on appearances to make it seem as if you’re getting along. Joy cannot be manufactured.
I feel free just sharing this with you. It’s like a heavy burden was lifted off my shoulders the moment I stopped allowing people’s comments to dictate my feelings. I have always embraced my need for solitude and the seasons of solitude in my life, but I’ve also been criticized for it. Now, I’m not saying being alone and moping around is healthy for anyone, but if you are truly embracing the beauty of solitude and being alone , what’s the issue? Can someone tell me? No you can’t, so don’t even bother. Laughs.