You Can’t Force Love

There is nothing you can do to make people love you.

As I was stirring some oats on the stove-top for breakfast this morning, I was thinking about solitude and love.

I will hold off on solitude for another post coming right after this but,  I want to focus on love first.

You see, no matter how good you are, the kind words spoken, words of encouragement and peace; no matter how often you make someone’s favorite meal, walk the neighbors dog, or mow a friend’s lawn, none of these things will make people love you. You can be the best wife, even the best father, you can win the Nobel Peace Prize, be the most virtuous man or woman on this planet and there will always be someone that hates you. There are despicable people out there who commit many crimes, beat their wives, abuse their children and are still loved by many.

So what’s my point? Well, my point is, if you know you are doing the right by God, continue being yourself. People will nit-pick, criticize and demean you, do good anyway. People will shun and reject you, be happy anyway. People will find fault with you but overlook a major character flaw in others, stay true to yourself anyway. Because the moment you succumb to any of their comments and ill manners, you will be reduced as a person. You will never be able to please everyone. Sure, we compromise in relationships but never, ever compromise who you are. The ones that love you will never force you to compromise who you are and the good things you do. They will encourage you and motivate you to be the best version of yourself.

A lot of times, we become sad when people praise bad behavior. The bible calls that flattery. Fools give and receive flattery. Usually, they do this to get something from the person they are lying to.

You must live by your inner conviction. People will choose who they love and you must never do good things to be loved by others. You do good things for yourself and others for the glory of God and because it’s the right thing to do.

Always see people for who they are and what they show you. You cannot force people to change, you can speak the truth, but give them the space and time to make that decision to grow for themselves. Choose the company you keep wisely. Choose people with the same or similar inner convictions: loving God and others not for what they can gain but simply because they love you. Give each other space to be exactly who you are and be honest in everything you say and do.

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. (Galatians 6:7-10 NIV)

 

 

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